Ideally, marriage is meant to be a beautiful relationship between a man and a woman in love. And it is, in reality, but it only needs some basic ingredients to remain beautiful and successful… foremost of them is loyalty.
Every wife doesn’t just want to be treated like the only woman in the world; they want their husbands actually to think they are the only woman in the world. That’s the unspoken rule of loyalty for married men.It’s hard because there are so many attractive ladies, some of whom he probably works with closely.
Marriage remains beautiful until you start questioning your husband’s loyalty. Are you beginning to feel insecure in a relationship that used to be beautiful until recently? We have painstakingly curated a list of those important signs you would notice if he is seeing someone else.
1. HE IS ALWAYS ON HIS PHONE
When his phone is always with him, even in the most impossible situations, you may wonder if something is up.
Calm down; this is not a surefire sign.As my dad always says, “Mobile phones are called “mobile” for a reason. You are supposed to have them on you at all times”.If your husband spends so much time on his phone, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he is seeing someone else. It’s not weird that people carry their phones with them everywhere because, in this world, you could miss the update of a lifetime by just being offline for a few minutes. He may be reading the news, following the trends on Twitter , watching TikTok videos, playing games.
It only starts becoming a sign that he is seeing someone else when he is constantly texting and receiving private calls that can’t be answered in your presence. He is constantly smiling at his phone while texting someone else. And whenever you ask him who he is chatting with, he gives you very vague replies like “someone, a friend.
2. HE IS TOO CONSCIOUS OF HIS APPEARANCE
This is easier to discover if your husband is someone who doesn’t usually take too much notice of his appearance, and the truth is that many married men are like this. They just open their closets and wear the first thing they lay their hands on. If you begin to notice that your husband has been taking time to plan his outfits, you may be feeling impressed. Perhaps he is trying to dress well for you. But he is not just planning outfits; he is also making sure he has the right kind of haircut and puts on the right cologne. It’s not like he is even doing it when he goes out with you because he is too busy these days to spend time with you on a date.
Most married couples who have been together for many years often make this mistake. They feel like after some years, passion should be replaced by just being comfortable with your partner. Couples are meant to be romantic and passionately intimate, regardless of how long they have been together. If you notice that your husband is either avoiding you or being rigid during sex, it is a sign that something is off. If he completely avoids intimacy with you, he is probably seeing someone else and getting satisfaction from the other woman.
4. HE IS SECRETIVE
No relationship requires full disclosure more than marriage.Couples are expected to be open with each other. He avoids being transparent about his whereabouts and his finances.
He goes out and returns at will without even giving you an inkling of where he is going and what he is doing. Even his phone is heavily protected, and he still deletes his texts and call history.
He was done within a few minutes because his girlfriend usually clears all his messages. My friend thought he was exclusively dating this girl without realizing that he was actually the other guy.
5. HE BECOMES DEFENSIVE
With all the weird activities you are already noticing, it will be very hard not to ask questions. Honey, who is calling you in the middle of the night? Questions like this are surely going to be met by a defensive reply if your husband is seeing someone else. Even innocent questions about his day, work, and the welfare of his friends may still instigate this response because he may be thinking that they are trick questions. When your husband gets defensive all the time, it is a sign that he is hiding something and that something may just be the other woman.
6. HE DOESN’T SPEND TIME WITH YOU
Does your husband suddenly seem to have a lot of work to do that he rarely comes home? He always stays at work overnight or spends the weekend making a deal with a client. Does he seem to travel more in recent times than ever before? All these are signs that something is going on with your husband. He may even just prefer spending time alone or with friends. When your husband begins to exhibit this characteristic, it is a sign that he is seeing someone else.
7. HE TALKS OF ANOTHER WOMAN ALL THE TIME
Most times, men think they are being coded with their affections.They think they don’t let their feelings show.
That’s wrong.
Men wear their hearts on their sleeves, and if your husband is seeing someone else, he may talk about her all the time. Of course, he won’t say he is seeing her on the side. But if he seems to talk about a friend, coworker, or client so much, she may be the someone else he is seeing. If he is thinking about someone so much that he always finds ways to mention her, it is safe to say that he may be interested in her or even seeing her already.
8. HE SPENDS TOO MUCH
Men often give gifts to the women they love. Some of these gifts may be really expensive. I am saying this because I noticed that most men believe they impress women with the cost of gifts rather than the amount of thought put into choosing them. So, he is probably buying expensive gifts for the other woman, and the evidence of this may be those incredibly high credit card bills. He may also be going on expensive dates with her besides the gifts. Dinner at an exclusive restaurant, a weekend trip to the beach… The expensive hotel suite.
All these culminate into those exorbitant credit card bills you are receiving.
9. HE SUDDENLY HAS NEW HOBBIES
You may have spent so many years convincing your partner to get a new hobby to no avail. He probably prefers watching a game of soccer over the weekend to joining a book club or the Scrabble club.
Then, he suddenly develops an interest in something new like golfing, tennis, or a book club. You may be happy about this change at first, but if it is in combination with other signs listed above, your relationship may be in big danger. You don’t just pick up new hobbies and interests randomly.Hobbies are meant to be shared with someone. If your husband has new hobbies and interests, he is probably sharing them with someone else.
Especially when they are not activities that you are interested in.
Of course, you will try to prove that you are not cheating on him, but with your actions under intense scrutiny, you will end up overlooking his suspicious actions. What do you do when you confirm that your husband is seeing someone else?
The choice is yours…
However, you shouldn’t ever attempt to attack the other woman.It was your husband who betrayed you, not the other woman. At this point, you can now decide whether you want to forgive a cheating husband or move on.
The choice is yours…
